One is the Loneliest Number – But Cohousing Can Be a Great Solution | Sixty and Me

Lonesome? Well, join the club. More than one in three adults 50-80 is lonely, according to a the University of Michigan National Poll on Healthy Aging (NPHA). Are you one of them? As people retire and spouses, significant others, and friends pass on or move away, it’s normal to feel isolated.

I’m over 70 now, and I’ve had three friends move away to be closer to their grandchildren. I have yet to be bored or lonely, but I’m fortunate to live in a small community with close friends and community involvements. Many aren’t so lucky.

Our Pipedream

Over the years, my friends and I have
brainstormed about building a cluster home for four or five couples (or
singles). Our dream home would have a central common area including a living
room, kitchen, dining room, workout room, and reading/studio space.

Radiating around the common area would
be individual private suites, each with at least a bedroom, bath, sitting area
and kitchenette. We’ve fantasized about hiring a driver, a trainer, a cleaner,
and perhaps a chef.

This may be pie-in-the-sky, but it
makes sense. It would lighten our financial responsibilities, create options
for regular socializing, and meet our daily needs for meals and physical
activity. It might mean we could live independently for many more years than we
might have managed on our own.

Cohousing – One Solution to Loneliness

Cohousing is defined by Marriam-Webster
as “semi-communal housing consisting of a cluster of private homes and a shared
community space.” It’s not a new concept.

In fact, the first modern cohousing
community was established in Denmark over 50 years ago. The early
experiments were successful, and the trend has expanded worldwide.

Cohousing communities range from
free-standing private homes with a shared community building to condos with
shared spaces and other resources.

What makes it different from standard
senior housing is that the residents share the duties of administration and
organization as well as maintenance and activity planning.

The idea is to create a small,
connected community that encourages involvement and interaction on a regular
basis, yet allowing residents to enjoy their privacy comfortably.

What Are the Advantages of Cohousing?

According to data on cohousing.org, it’s both ecologically and economically prudent to house more people in a small area, share services, and share expenses. Many cohousing communities include units that cost under $100,000, while others can range up to five times that amount.

If you compare the cost of assisted
living to purchasing a senior cohousing unit, it’s a no-brainer. Assisted
living apartments in America average $4000 per month, or $48,000 per year. It’s
a quick way to gobble up a life’s savings in a few years.

And then there’s the workload. As they
say, many hands make fast work (as well as making it more enjoyable). Instead
of having to manage a lawn, gardening, and maintenance on your own, these
responsibilities are shared by the group, though of course there’s the option
of hiring outsiders to do those tasks.

The most important advantage is that
people with social connections live longer, healthier lives, which might
lighten otherwise necessary expenses for assisted living or nursing home care.

Senior cohousing is all about helping
people live independently longer in a community that helps them to stay both
active and connected.

Chuck Durrett is an American architect
dedicated to the promotion and design of senior cohousing communities.

He’s published a book, The Senior Cohousing Handbook: A Community Approach to Independent Living, and his website, senior cohousing is highly informative. He is happy to consult with individuals interested in developing such a community.

How Do We Find Senior Cohousing Communities?

I’ve discovered a number of websites about cohousing, including Senior Living and Cohousing UK. I know this type of senior living is much more popular in Europe and Scandinavia, and I’m confident that there are many such communities.

Do a web search for “senior
cohousing,” and it should bring up opportunities in your area.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What do you think about the idea of cohousing? Would you invest in living in a cohousing community? What sounds tempting? What doesn’t? Please share your thoughts with our community of
sisters!